Inspect what you expect, I have always been taught. Think about that phrase. It is one example (of many) of negative expectation. While, of course, it may be necessary, in certain circumstances, using it as a rule can be limiting. Why? It is limiting because, your life may be holding another, even better scenario than you could have ever imagined, if and when you could let it all go. That might sound crazy to some. “Have no expectations? What kind of world would this be, our whole world is run on exopectations!” Exactly. Precisely why there is more suffering than there really needs to be.
According to the wise teacher, Deepak Chopra, in his book, 7 LAWS of Spiritual Success, The Law of Least Effort States:
1. I will practice Acceptance. Today I will accept people, situations, circumstances, & events as they occur. I will know that this moment is as it should be, because the whole universe is as it should be. I will not struggle against the whole universe by struggling against this moment. My acceptance is total & complete. I accept things as they are this moment, not as I wish they were.
2. Having accepted things as they are, I will take Responsibility for my situation & for all those events I see as problems. I know that taking responsibility means not blaming anyone or anything for my situation (and this includes myself). I also know that every problem is an opportunity in disguise, & this alertness to opportunities allows me to take this moment and transform it into a greater benefit.
When we adopted this way of thinking, life becomes more of an adventure with less stress, filled with good things, no matter what comes your way!
Recently, my husband and I celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary. I have been planning on an amazing celebration for YEARS. I even have a Pinterest board where I have been accumulating beautiful pictures of a perfect celebration to end all anniversary celebrations. The date has come and gone. Nothing happened. (We did have a lovely dinner, but no real “party” to speak of) On the day of our anniversary, at first it was hard. Tears came & flowed freely, then stopped. I had to think this through. Do I choose happiness or turmoil? Do I trust or give up hope. Do I really know what to expect? NO! I can live in the disappointment in the inspection of that expectation, or I could bask in the delight of knowing that my life will deliver something more delicious that I could ever inagine. I could wait at the door of my expectation, crying next to a door that won’t open, or walk over to a door, swung wide open, one of possibilities, unimaginable. It’s my choice. Great thing is, it’s yours, too.
All the best,